False Accusations

I think in my life, it's happened more often, than not. 

Years ago, when I was young and had horses on my mind more than anything else, I was accused of being sexually active with the boys. Some of them were prevented from visiting our house as a result of their parents misconceptions. 

During the 'school' years - I was anywhere from 1-3 years younger than my classmates and that brought out the worst in many of the kids around me. I've been hated by people because of what other people said about me, unbeknown to me.

My first marriage was into a family that gossip and drama were a part of their everyday lives. My ex sister in law and her daughter had both admitted to doing things to my ex and making him think it was me. Like my divorce and the domestic violence wasn't enough for them. He hates me, because he believes the rumors. 

My second marriage was to a bipolar alcoholic who wasn't diagnosed until years later. Lying was a way of life for him, I'm not sure he knows how to be honest. He spent years telling his family lies about me, always blamed me for his actions and so much more. I spent years not understanding why they hated me so much. 

Then there are the male friends whose wives hated me because their mates 'liked' me. Of course I've been accused of sleeping with every man I've been friends with. People don't seem to understand not all relationships revolve around sex. Even though sometimes one person has the thoughts on their mind, doesn't mean the other person has the same thoughts. 

I think the worst is when your own children are saying things about you that are untrue. Making up stories and lies about you to excuse their own behavior and actions. Some of their stories are so far-fetched it's hard to think anyone would believe it. What hurts is the lies they tell your grandchildren about you. 

Imagine going through life being hated by people you don't even know and have had nothing to do with them.

The Bible tells us that people will hate us just because we are Christians. Warns us about the deceptions and even that it will be coming from our own families. I must have done something right for God to be hated by people as much as I have been. 

I don't particularly care what people think about me, I've spent my live knowing that God is watching and knows my heart. God knows the truth and that is really all that matters. In the end, people don't get you to heaven, Jesus does. You can't spend your life running around defending yourself against all the evil people are putting against you. You have to keep focused on doing what God wants you to do, and know that God's judgement is far more important than peoples opinions. 

Blessed by God

Life's real @ the Bright Side of the Barn

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Back to Normal

For many years our weather maintained a moderate medium. Summers never really got to hot and winters never really got cold. Rain was a common occurrence and temperatures ranged from 55 to 75 on the average. 

In the last decade or so, temperatures during the summer would reach uncomfortably hot nearing 100 and winters would drop well below freezing into the 20's. Snow has become more common in the winter and and rain has become a rare occurrence. 

They started manipulating the weather a few years back and that is when I think the extreme began to happen. Now in the past couple years, our weather seems to be getting back to normal. We had a few days of snow 2 winters ago and only 1 day of snow this last winter. Temperatures stayed moderately warm last summer and this year it seems to be staying cooler as well. For this part of the world, this in the normal. 

It's part of the reason I've lived here for 40+ years. I don't like cold and it's hard to work in the too hot. They used to call it the evergreen state, also much of our 'green' has disappeared into development or disasters.  The world is becoming crowded almost everywhere you look. There isn't much 'frontier' left to discover. 

Everyday I wake up grateful for where I am and how good life has become, even that has become a sense of normal. No struggles, no trauma, no drama. I wish it could have been like this when my kids were growing up, instead of all we had to go through. I wish they could remember the good times instead of the dark days. There were a lot of good times worth remembering. 

I've gotten used to being alone, that too has become the new normal. It's actually gotten to where I prefer to be alone most of the time. It's peaceful.  I think we all have a different view of 'normal'. We don't all fit in the same box. Many times the question is posed ~ What is normal? when it should be asked 

~ what is your normal? 

Blessed by God

Life's peaceful @ the Bright side of the Barn

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