I've been accused of a lot of things. Sometimes some pretty horrendous things. Things beyond my character. Revenge, retaliation, negative actions ~ not my style.
If I'm guilty of anything, I'm guilty of 'writing letters'. I don't believe in the he said she said mentality. I don't go for gossip and I don't react to situations.
I write. If I have something to say to someone or about someone, I write to them. They hear it from me. Not through the 'grape vine'.
What people do with those letters is on them. I've said my piece and done my part. Sometimes it works out to the positive and sometimes to the negative. Sometimes it does nothing at all. Once I've written my letter, mailed or delivered it. I'm done with the situation unless I get something back.
As I said, I've been accused of so many things. So many lies including stories from a couple of my own children. Sadly, as adults they have chosen a different method of living as to what they were raised. They know they are telling lies as they cannot face me.
I stand with a clear conscience, knowing I have done my part in situations to 'clear the air'. I know I haven't done the things accused of. So I sleep peacefully at night.
You can't make other people do the right thing. You can't stop others from doing things that hurt people around them. You only have control over your own actions and attitude. Writing allows one to say what they need or want to say without interruption. Without being sidetracked onto other topics. You are able to say what's on your mind without emotions getting overwhelmed.
It usually takes a few re writes before a letter is send. This allows you to keep it under control and on point. Writing also allows the other person to read it and read it again. Sometimes it's the second read that helps them understand. Not all conversations can be done in person. Emotions often lead conversations into a negative spin, and the purpose is lost completely.
You have to take a proactive approach in life. Not reactive. When you go through life reacting to what others say or do, you find yourself chasing the wind. When you take a proactive approach, you lead the way to happiness and contentment for yourself. You find peace with those around you. The negative drifts away.
The best way to prevent gossip is to write. The best way to open the door to a misunderstanding is to write. And the best way to handle the negative happenings is to focus forward. God knows all and sees all. Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord, I will repay. If you do it right and give it to Him, someday, you will see - Your revenge cannot outdo His vengeance.
Blessed by God
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