Give a fool enough rope and they hang themselves

I was recently contacted by a niece from my first marriage. Much was said giving me flashbacks of the past. A past from a very long time ago.......

Revenge was never my thing. Focusing forward with my own life was always my goal. I never worried about 'getting back' at anyone or 'getting even'. I was always more concerned with doing what was best for my kids and myself and our future.

One of my granddaughters asked me one time why my EX and I didn't get along. I explained to her we were getting along a few years after the divorce; things were starting to smooth out which was good for the kids. Then he met his current wife and that's when things went downhill. She was insecure about him and I being able to talk to each other. So, she started telling lies about me and accusing me of things that never happened.

My little granddaughter is pretty smart, her response was "Ya, I get it, she probably was jealous and worried about you getting back together "I had to laugh. That was something that wasn't ever going to happen. I had only wanted us to get along for the kids sake. My granddaughter is a pretty smart little cookie. She sees through people and their BS.  

It didn't help that other people in his family would do things and try and make him think it was me, they did things to me trying to make me think it was him. Their goal was to make the situation worse than it already was. One of the main reasons I disconnected with his entire family.

My first EX was such a fool..

He chose to believe those around him rather than remember how I was. He should have known better. 

When he asked me to drop my protection order he failed to give me his address. There wasn't anything I could do. I wasn't the violent one, the one causing the other trouble. Hence, I wasn't the one the judge needed to see. Without an address to serve papers and bring the matter to court, I couldn't do anything. 

When he accused me of abusing our youngest daughter, he listed his address as living with his current wife. Yet, he was claiming to live with his parents at the same time, so she could get welfare and food stamps. It wasn't my fault he got busted for welfare fraud. He did it to himself. The whole thing was a ploy to get out of paying child support. Something he ended up paying in the end.

Rather than talk to me or ask me about something, he would believe anything he was told then overreact to it. He brought most of his problems onto himself. 

He made up his own lies about things of the past, trying to make it out to be 'my fault' and he himself as the 'victim'. I never had an attorney in court. I stood on the truth and more often than not, there were police reports to support my claim. 

My dad always said, Just let it be ~ You give a fool enough rope and they will hang themselves. Daddy was right! 

One scripture held me though some pretty tough times. 

"Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord, I will repay"

Your revenge is nothing compared to God's vengeance. Let it go and Focus forward. 

Your enemies will fall behind you. 

Blessed by God

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Set the Record Straight

I'd like to set the record straight and explain my story. I'm not a 'spy' for Collective Communities. I bought my house in a Collective Community in Black Diamond and received the keys on Sept 11 - 2020. As a Notary I did some work for Jake the owner of Collective Communities. My house won the Christmas decorating competitions 2 years in a row. I became known to the property owners as a good resident that took care of my property in the community. Management changed a few times during my residence, and I became friends with the manager 'Sarah' as we were both excessive plant lovers.

In 2024 my then husband began a battle with prostate and colon cancers, he missed a lot of work and found it necessary to retire after 25 years of service to the Boeing company. His pension alone was not enough to keep up the mortgage, lot rent, other expenses and daily living. So, we sold our house in May of 2024. We applied for his Social Security disability, a process that ended up taking 27 months to acquire. His pension alone was not enough to qualify for a rental anywhere as it did not meet the income to rent ratio, so we were technically 'homeless'. Living in the truck and with family while exploring Washington and fighting Social Security. 

Winter came and 'Sarah' found out about the situation. She went to Jake (The owner of Collective Communities) asking if they had a rental anywhere that they could rent to me. The original plan was in a property in Lynnwood that they were attempting to restore. Because of my reputation for cleanliness and immaculate yard keeping, I was temporarily placed in a new house in the new Enumclaw community while this restoration was to take place. Unfortunately, there were complications with permits and requirements with the City of Seattle. Rather than tell me, 'to bad can't help you'. 

I was offered this house in Bothell. As a rental with the prospects of renting to own. I have witnessed the amazing things that Collective has done with the property in Black Diamond, upgrades, improvements and cleaning up the neighborhood making it a safe and pleasant place for families to live. The Enumclaw community is brand new, 55+ community that was being built up as a safe and secure place for seniors. Truth be told, I wasn't fond of the idea of going to Lynnwood and found it to be a blessing when the property in Bothell was chosen as an alternative. This house had been on the market for over a year sitting empty.

Here I was looked upon as a 'spy' for Collective by many residents because of 'knowing' Jake. I'm not here to 'report' back to Collective, I'm not here to 'spy' on the community. I'm here because Jake is a good person and reached out to help someone that he knew to be a good person as well. I understand there is conflict between many residents and Collective. That is not a situation I choose to be on either side of. 

I am just happy to have a place to call home, and hope to find friends amongst the neighbors. For me, I have seen many positive things done by Collective in many communities. I will be forever grateful to Jake for giving me this opportunity and helping me out of my situation. I'm now divorced and never could have accomplished this much on my own without someone stepping up and offering me an opportunity. 

Blessed by God

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