“Friends ask you questions; enemies question you.” ― Criss Jami, Healology
Pet Peeve? Deep felt moral?
Loyalty is important to me.
You can't be on both sides of a situation. It's one or the other.
According to the Bible, even God doesn't like in between people.
It's either HOT or COLD. No luke warm, He'd spit it out.
So you can only imagine the divorce.
Every friend had to be determined to be 'friend' or 'foe'.
There was violence, and death attempts toward my life. My children's lives were put in dangerous situations more than once, because of the loyalty amongst the thieves so to speak.
People lied to protect HIM
instead of being HONEST AND PROTECTING THE CHILDREN.
Anyone that was a friend to him became an enemy to me.
It wasn't a choice I got to make, it was a necessity to stay alive and keep my children safe.
His family down played his violence.
His parents turned their backs on all their kids drinking and violence. Ignoring it, making excuses for it and oh yes, blaming the victims for causing it. And if you called the POLICE you were their enemy???
Dysfunction??
The dysfunction has spread to the grandchildren and great-grandchildren. The majority of the family struggles with drugs and or alcohol and violence. Child abuse both physical and mentally. It's sad and sick.
40 years later I can tell you , it was wise to keep my kids away from that family as much as possible. My kids had a few struggles in life, usually when they acquainted themselves with their dad and his family.
When they stay away from 'that family', their lives worked out well.
The hardest thing for me to do when I got my divorce was to leave my nephews behind in that family. One has committed suicide since. Heartbreaking.
People have lied about me, called me names and continually tell my descendants their version of the 'truth'.
When in fact, my loyalty was to my children, I owed them the best chance at life I could give them, if I had to do it alone, so be it. If it meant being a Bitch and calling the police and having him arrested for breaking the law - so be it as well. I wasn't the one doing wrong.
You cannot be loyal to both sides of any situation, it's one or the other.
Blessed by God
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