After several years of marriage and raising a family, your husband gets in a car accident and is now paralyzed.. Do you divorce him because of the burdens?
After several years of marriage, my husband was diagnosed 'bipolar 1' with multiple personality 'traits' and 'manic episodes'.
{A mental disorder}.
Now because he's been a burden in many ways and can be quite unpleasant to live with. Do I divorce him because it's hard?
Many ask why I stayed, why put up with the abuse, why tolerate the pain associated with the abusive behavior. Why put my children through it all. I wanted a divorce for many years.... this was an internal and external struggle.
But, we wanted to find him help so he could know what was wrong and get better. We could see that something was 'wrong'. So I stayed in the fight.
If this were your child, you wouldn't even think about it, you would just take care of them and take the blows 'like a good mom does'.
So he's my husband. Should it be any different?
So so many people out on the streets are suffering undiagnosed mental disorders and have no help because 'family' either didn't know how or didn't want to or didn't have the resources...
I didn't want to see him in such a state of being. So I fought with him until he got help. I've been slandered I've been called a 'monster' and had a lot of things said about me that are untrue. His family is the worst! of all people. and I'm hated Because I stayed in the fight, which ultimately saved his life. {suicide is a big thing for people struggling to understand their own mental disorders..}
It isn't a 'relationship' it's more of a 'situation'. There hasn't been a lot of happy times and financially it's a struggle, because bi polar people have a hard time managing money. And there are many days, he has to miss work because he's not 'checked in'. This happens with mental disorders.
It took years for him to see a doctor and be honest with them so he could be properly diagnosed. The road from there has been rocky. Getting the right medications has been good and finding the right therapist would be nice.
There are still the occasional episodes, however much less volcanic.
There are good times, and steady days.
We like that .... Steady days.
There is much happiness and good times playing with the grandchildren. He's a hard worker and good at his job. There's a new house with lots to do.... {As long as life is consistent without changes, he's good}
Happiness is a feeling of choice that you make for yourself.
So it really doesn't matter what your facing in life, you can choose to be happy in it. Life isn't always easy and things are going to happen and change the course of your journey.
Will you be stiff and break or like a willow branch and bend.?
Or just straight up 'run for the hills!'
or a 'rock' that people come from miles to lean on because you've become so strong from 'life'......
a 'lighthouse' in the dark...
Everything happens for a reason, sometimes, God's just training you for the next mission