Balance your Kindness

 A lesson I need to learn

It's good to help people. It's good to be kind and generous...

But you have to make sure your not hurting yourself to do it..

We hurt ourselves in so many ways ~ 

For Instance ..

To loan money out, with a promise to get paid back. Then It doesn't get paid back and you actually needed that money for your own bills. Now your hurting. If you have extra money that your not using for a bill or groceries, it's okay to help others out. But if that money is something you need for your own family, learn to say no!

We short change and cheat ourselves to help others ~

When you decide to sell something - you think about it, do a little research and set your price. Usually with a little wiggle room to come down. It's called negotiating. Your supposed to stand strong on your bottom dollar and not go any lower. { Selling yourself short, is cheating yourself}. Sometimes it's okay to take less, most of the time, you were pricing it fairly to begin with and you shouldn't cheat yourself. Remember what it cost you and what it's really worth somewhere else.

We gamble our own needs when we take Payments ~ 

Now who isn't guilty of this one at least once in their life? Payments are a risk and they delay your purpose. Chances are when your selling something, you need the money for something else. Make sure you can afford to wait for your money and know the gamble on actually getting the payments. You got to be able to read people pretty good to avoid trouble with this one. !! 

But you know what we give away the most? Where our own generosity hurts us the most.......

OUR TIME FOR OURSELVES. 

How many times have you put off your own chores to help someone else with theirs? How often do you stop and chat with the neighbor/friend when you should be getting things done? Do you volunteer? Believe me, every task you do as a volunteer is appreciated by the organization that your helping. How many times are you tired, worn out, got hurt or just used up a whole day - for someone else? Have you ever went without something so someone else could have it? 

Sometimes you just got to say NO, I CAN'T TODAY. And give yourself SOME TIME. Do what you like to do for you. 

It's okay to be kind, just remember to be kind to yourself~

Blessed by God

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