May is on the Way!

 

Life in the 90's to Now ~

 Things were different back then. 

Laws were different.

Woman's rights were different.

Being able to protect yourself, was NOT a legal option.

"Why doesn't she just leave?"

Read the Most dangerous time for woman ~ when they LEAVE......

Many therapists urge battered women to leave those abusive relationships. Statistics warn, however, that the greatest violence often follows their departure.

In fact, the Justice Department says the majority of domestic assaults reported to law enforcement take place after the couple separates.

“The statistics are that women in abusive relationships are about 500 many times more at risk when they leave,” said Wendy Mahoney, executive director for the Mississippi Coalition Against Domestic Violence. 

.....

Blaming the victim

Sometimes people ask why battered women don’t leave.

“That’s the wrong question to ask,” Gruelle said. “The question should be, ‘Why does he feel he has the right to abuse, control, terrorize and intimidate her?’”

Domestic violence

• Every year, more than 3 million women in the U.S. are abused, and more than 1,600 are killed by their abusers.
• Women are 70 times more likely to be killed in the two weeks after leaving than at any other time during the relationship.

Read ~ No visible bruises 

Until you have had to live through it, you really don't know what it's like. 

People are too quick to judge HER, blame her or dismiss her experience 

- especially if she survives. 

You don't know what SHE went through. 

Blessed by God

Life's beautiful @ the Bright side of the Barn

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Patience ~

 

The Famous 2 Weeks!

 Seems everything is a 2 week wait. Even the covid started out as a 2 week quarantine. . 

Down to the final 2 weeks to closing. Most of the moving is done, many things have sold off lightening the load. Change of address under way and reservations for a mini vacation at the time of closing. Doctor appointments and surgeries begin the following week....

Still a lot to do and many 'unknowns' in the process. I was really hoping we could get him settled in before surgery, but it's not to sure at the moment. Still need a few miracles to take place and some stars to align. 

So far there have been blessings too many to count. Things happening in ways we never expected. So much has already been positive and helpful, one can't help but think this too shall work out. 

Blind Faith.

Cats are getting nervous, hanging out in the kennels more. Chanelle has taken to hoarding the cat food and hiding it under the mat in her little cave. She's pretty lost at the moment. We come and go so much, she doesn't know where we belong anymore. 

I must say he's doing pretty good at staying stable with all that's going on. These are the big changes that can make or break a person. It's a bit stressful when the answers don't all add up yet, but as I said, he's doing really well at progressing through this. 

It seems spring has finally started to arrive with chilly winds pushing winter away. A few nights of freezing temps, and plenty of sunshine during the day.... so glad it's now not previously during the cold and rain that 'moving' had to take place.

All this wraps up and ends just before Mother's Day. Not sure where I'll be that weekend. Would have been nice to see the kids before this all comes together. Cause we are not sure where either of us will end up at that point. 

For now all is normal....

Blessed by God

Life's good @ the Bright side of the Barn

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Until next time, Stay Safe and Happy Trails.

Hanging Close

 Hello, and thanks for stopping by.......

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 The house - selling, moving.... this is the kind of event that is critical to folks that struggle with changes. I'm hanging close. With all the medical and bleeding and blood clots.... and now cancers, you never know what will happen next. After so many years on medications, I think they too are starting to have effects on his health. So with this added stress, I'm concerned. I carry nitro for his heart just in case!

 While I believe this move will be the best thing for him, once it's done and he's set up and established. The transition part, has been and continues to be - difficult. Unknown variables make it harder to cope, for folks that struggle with change. Not being able to make decisions until the last minute are also difficult. The more you can plan and stick to the plan, the easier the transitions are. The variables ~ 

  Not to mention all the surgeries and biopsy's to come starting next month. The mind can only handle so much on a good day. I keep reminding myself I asked God for help with all this, and as soon as He took over, things started working out. For the most part. Once Papa started agreeing with the logical solutions, God was able to really go to work! 

 Things are happening and it'll be all good on the other side. It's just getting there. Sometimes you feel like giving up, can't handle it, don't want to handle it anymore. I hate the phrase "this isn't fair", cause if I even start to think it, a little voice, reminds me "I never promised fair in this life, need I remind you of all I've done for you?" and I immediately bite my tongue take a deep breathe and dig in again. 

 That little voice has been a loud power in my life, I've learned to listen. 

I know they say your crazy if you hear voices in your head. Read the Bible and you find out God comes to you in 'a little voice'. So it makes sense that society that doesn't believe in God would want to call you crazy for listening to God? That voice has saved my life many times, led me in the right direction, delayed me to spare me, with some near misses..... The list of miracles and blessings are endless. 

 There is light at the end of this tunnel, a future that looks pretty good. Sometimes all we can do is breathe, enjoy the moment, look for the good and keep going. Don't need to understand it all, right now. For now I'm hanging close and making sure he's coping with the process okay. One day at a time. 

Blessed by God

Life's good @ the Bright side of the Barn

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Until next time, Stay Safe and Happy Trails. 

Looks like this is it.

Praise the Lord! The process of 'selling' the house is over. Now it's just the process of processing the sale ?!

What was thought to be the forever home, 

has turned out to be another stepping-stone in a journey across the river. 

You don't know what your health will do, you can't predict what the world is changing into. You have to be able to adjust, willing to make changes. 

 As the price dropped on the house, so did the plans to buy another one. {I would never want to go through the grief of selling a house. Worst experience mentally ever} Renting an apartment seemed crazy with the cost of rent these days. So buying the travel trailer was the next choice. 

 Now which one. It's been a back and forth battle between two models. And the final decision will be to see what's still there when the money comes. Winner take all. 

 There is a sadness to it. The house was loved. Problem was company never came to visit hardly. Since last August, The grandkids stopped coming over. {edit - school started the end of August} So it's been hard being here.

 I will figure my life issues out, once I get him settled. Right now one can hardly think of themself, with so much going on with him. Doctor appointments and surgeries.. moving and 'changes'... bi polar 1 folks - don't do good with change and stress. 

 If it wasn't for the horse that comes running when I arrive, there wouldn't be much to look forward to these days. She is my sunshine. The rock I'm grounded to.

 Let the countdown begin. There is a closing date, which puts everything on time line..... time to get to it and 'Get er done' I guess. A little over whelmed, thankfully I have lists. And it feels so good to scratch things off as completed!!

 I will finally have him settled into his retirement life and a steady routine on a happy path.

1. Sign papers
2. Celebrate
3. Sign more papers
4. Get PO Box
5. Get Storage
6. Boxes to 'finish' packing
7. Start turning in 'change of address'
8. Start taking loads to storage
9. Sign more papers
10. Appraisals n Inspection appointments
11. Schedule end of services, PSE, garbage..
12. Sign more papers
13. Finish moving everything to storage
14. Clean the house, mow the lawn, 
15. Sign final papers
16. Wait for funds to transfer
17. Celebrate the past and toast to the future

Blessed by God 

Life's confusing @ the Bright side of the Barn

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Until next time, Stay Safe and Happy Trails.

April Showers Bring May Flowers?

 

Time to Go Home

 

After just over 2 months, it sounds like there might be a serious offer coming on the house? 

With spring in the air and camping season quickly approaching, I feel an overwhelming stress, to get moving!

The Coleman Trailer has finally made it's way to Washington.

 Seems I need to make a trip far north, but will be worth it to see it and feel it! 

Could this finally be the next step?

Blessed by God

Life's getting exciting @ the Bright side of the Barn

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Until next time, Stay Safe and Happy Trails.