Inside the Fish Bowl

 Most of us can't see it while we're in the fish bowl.  Most folks won't say anything about it, because when you can't see it, you're not ready to hear it either. {Usually, there are exceptions to everything} But when somebody finally sees, or says - the right thing, 

- it's like the whole Christmas tree lit up. 

It isn't a question of 'hating' someone, or 'being mean'. It's a matter of emptiness and being so fed up, you just don't put up with any of it - anymore. There is no fight left. You can't make someone 'love' you with the desire it takes to be in a relationship. You can care for someone, which is a form of 'love'. You can care about someone, another form of 'love'. 

But to be 'in love' with someone, is something of the heart, you just can't make it 'exist'. 

Needing someone and being needed are a completely different type of relationship. Too often we mistake one for the other. 'Love' for 'Need' and 'Need' for 'Love'.  When one side is in a 'needing' frame of mind and another person is 'looking for love'. They may end up together for a spell. 

Being needed without any reciprocal 'love', tends to make one side feel unbalanced in the relationship. {And that's when the conflicts start}. Outside forces may try to help 'heal' the relationship, or encourage it to end? Most folks on the outside, really don't know the depth of the problems within, so advice is hard to give correctly. 

This is probably why we have so many EX's and so few relationships that LAST. 

You can fall 'out of love' with someone when the scale becomes unbalanced and still be friends that care about each other. {If both sides are able to}.  You can still enjoy someone's company, without the expectations of the relationship, and get along just fine. Still having 'fun' together. 

Sometimes this is motivated by the children that are 'stuck in the middle' of it all. Some unbalanced relationships can hold out and maintain because of the 'kids' that the relationship affects. At least until the 'kids' are out of the way. { Couples are known to divorce once children are grown and out of the house. This often leaves the children in a bit of a shock, because they 'didn't see that coming}

You can 'try' again. Sometimes the problems can be resolved to where things do work out. Or you can 'try' again - and again and the problems only amplify and get worse with each collision. These would be the relationships that might end in 'hating' each other, or at least one side 'hating' the other.

Sometimes you just need to be left alone, without the burden of trying to figure someone else out. To find yourself. To 'fix' yourself. Not everyone is meant to be in a relationship. Some folks are very 'independent' and struggle with 'dependent'.  people.

There are a lot of 'sometimes' in there, I know. You have to figure out what kind of 'fish' you are. It's best to have an idea of what you're expecting from any other 'fish' you want to add to the bowl. We are all just trying to be 'happy fish', with or without other fish in our bowls.

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Life's a bowl @ the Bright side of the Barn

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