Mama used to say ~ If the shoe fits, wear it!

I have often had different folks, feel like a post on facebook, or a blog post here ~ is about them, or a conversation we've had together. 

Sometimes - our conversations may spark a thought on a subject. Often times, I am able to look at things from different directions and opposite opinions. 

Not always necessarily is it my thoughts or my opinion. But one of many angles to look at something. Sometimes people get offended, or think I got offended. Many times, neither is the case. After the confronting conversation, I often wonder ~ hmmm, what were they thinking that made them think, I felt that way? Was there guilt in there somewhere. 

Trust me, If you have offended me or if I felt a certain way about something you did, we would either talk about it or never talk again. I used to write letters, when I had an issue with someone. That way, my words would always be in black and white, and nobody could say "Well she said", without it being exactly what I said. 

People would often misinterpret my letters. But that too is on them, not me. Write me back if you have to and I'll try and explain it differently. 

Too many times, people are afraid to say, "how they feel" or ask "if that offended you", when such a simple conversation could really clear the air. 

I've had conversations with folks about a subject, regarding 'having to defend myself.' Later making a post about 'having to defend myself', and they would feel I was referring to our conversation. When in fact - it's a completely different person, that I always seem to have to 'defend' myself, or my answer to something.

Thankfully that person was able to come out and ask me, if it was our conversation. I tried to explain it wasn't and hopefully all is well.  Very few people are as straight forward. Which is probably why I love the ones that are, so very much. We have open relationships, without question or doubt. 

I've lost a few good friends because they thought 'I was referring to them' when in fact, they were not even the thought on my mind, or the point of the post. But it did tell me that they could or should have been. Perhaps that is why the friendship ended. 

Be true with your people and hopefully they will be true with you. It makes for better friends, and longer relationships. 

Blessed by God

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