Mirror Mirror

I don't think I'm perfect, You do. That's why you watch and criticize my every fault. This is where the saying comes from "Look in the mirror, when you point your finger".

For a minute there I hope you don't think I was talking about you. I wasn't talking about anyone in particular, it's just how some people make you feel sometimes. At least some of us feel that way.

Be careful what you say on social media, talk about one person and 10 think your talking about them. People have such guilty consciences about themselves, they don't realize they expose themselves with their own reactions, rather than you exposing their story. It's a bit sad to think that so many fall down that path.  

Who's real these days. How many live true to their public profiles? How many share too much of their personal lives? 

I don't try to appear perfect, in reality or on the Bright side of the Barn. I try to show the positive. I strive for perfection every day. Personal perfection. Always trying to improve myself and the life around me. This is my motivation every day. 

I think I'm normal, always wanting to put my best foot forward. 

I come from a time when your actions spoke for your character, your words for your integrity, and dignity and honor followed you in a reputation you could be proud of.

You were who you were and your word was a bond, you lived up to.

It doesn't mean I spend my day looking at everyone else's lives and criticizing when I think they are wrong, or look down on them because they are not where I am.? 

What ever that truly means. I've heard it said so many times. 

My oldest son used to say {using his hands} Dad is down here and your up here. We don't have to try very hard to be better than this, and it's impossible to be as good as that.

Sometimes, it's a sad perception

Be yourself and be the best you that you can be. Don't try to be me.
Like the bumper sticker says "Don't follow me, I'm lost".

Blessed by God 

Life's good @ the Bright side of the Barn.

Thanks for stopping by,

Until next time, Stay safe and Happy Trails.

Why me?

Everyone should have a therapist or Councilor. We all need a place to unload without worrying that it's going to be tomorrows gossip.

A place where there is no judgement, no bias.

It used to be families were closer and could talk to each other. It used to be we had pastors, priests and ministers that we could talk to and trust. It used to be that teachers were a friend to their students and truly cared.

Now,

Not so many people go to church, so the pastors, priests and ministers are out. More and more kids are home schooling and more teachers are becoming unworthy of the trust.

Now days, families are mixed up and blended so much that kids don't even know if their own siblings are their sibling or their cousin?  Who's mom do you go to - yours or mine? Dad's are becoming extinct. The new guy takes his place. Mom's are so disrespected by missing fathers that kids have no one to look up to.

So who do you go to?  Where do you go when you don't know how to cope with how you feel? or when you just need someone to be there? or when you really just want some genuine advise...... or someone to shut up and listen.

What happens when you can't find help?

we wonder why so many turn to drugs, alcohol and other means of escape from the reality of our lives.

Have you ever truly listened when someone is telling you their problems. Or are you thinking of your own misfortunes, or feeling thankful that your life isn't so bad off.

When you hand out advise. Is it genuine, or just words.

So many people say "IF that was me, I wouldn't....." and yet they do.
So many people say "IF that happened to me, I would....." and yet they don't.

We are really good at giving others our opinions, but are we any good at living up to our own words.? 

How many times have you asked

"Why me?"

Only to find yourself later, needing that very experience, to help someone else find their way. 

My therapist the other day, said "You'd make a good councilor"... I kept talking and let that one just fly out the window. Even though we're in a room with no windows. 

I have spent so much of my life listening to other people talk about their problems, and I've barely had to share one story of my life and they end up grateful their life isn't so bad. 

I've lived through hell. and that's an understatement. 

I figured out a long time ago.... Why me? because nobody else could live this life ..... just like nobody else could go through your life and survive it as well as you have. 

Regardless of how bad you might think it is. 

It's okay to cry and allow yourself to feel . It's okay to fall, just don't stay down, get up.

.. it's okay to say "Why me?". But then you got to dry your eyes and look around.... 

Someone always has it worse than you. Start looking at them and saying "Why them?" and do something to make their life a little better. 

Don't hold it in, and don't take it out on others. Don't drown it in a bottle or try and escape with the drugs.....

Get a therapist and talk about it. Get it out. Share it. Give yourself that gift. You might not think you have problems, think your handling your life ok. You probably are, but you would be surprised how much happier you'll feel. 

I had a friend once. He was heart broken that his marriage was falling apart. Both he and his wife were in therapy for years.....  but refused to go to marriage counselling together.?  It took him experiencing what life would be like if he left, to realize he wanted to stay. It took him almost leaving for his wife to realize she was pushing him away...... They finally went to marriage counselling. Last I heard they were still together. Whether or not they are happy, is for them to figure out. 

Whether it's a therapist to get it out, or a counselor to referee between couples..... it's a great thing to have. And it works better than drugs or alcohol... or violence, or having affairs, or ..friends that talk about you behind your back... 

ya, try it.

Blessed by God

Life's good @ the Bright side of the Barn,

Thanks for stopping by,

Until next time, Stay safe and Happy Trails.