Sitting on the Fence

 People on one side of the fence, say this is really no big deal, lots of people survive it. { He thinks he's only gonna miss a couple days work with surgery ....}

On the other side of the fence I know people who have lost someone from this very thing. { guys that think they just going to keep working - blow it off - end up dying at work } with no planned 'just in case' 

-and then the family loses everything by the time you have a funeral - house included.

Everyone has 2 cents ~ 

 
Yes, I've heard many opinions this past week and had many crazy thoughts from one extreme to the other... I hate waiting for doctor appointments and answers....

 
He's missed so much work already, he misses 1 to 2 days a week because of this and what it does to his bipolar as well.. bills are piling up.. Not much left to sell except the house. . . and He thinks he can put off surgery until the bills are caught up... 

If he would just retire... 

it wouldn't matter if he was sick, or how sick or even if he felt super good. He could enjoy what's left of life.

he would have money to pay off bills, a steady monthly income - regardless of if he felt good or bad, missing work wouldn't be an issue. 

On his good days he could do things that he enjoys. That would help balance out the bad days and the doctor days. 

How am I supposed to feel..

I really don't know right now. Part of me wants to be just as selfish as him, and only think of me and run - save myself from the hell. 

Another part of me, the part that has me in this in the first place, is that I am all he has for help. His own family abandon him and there is no one to help him deal with his bipolar or now this. 

So here I am "sitting on the fence" 

Blessed by God 

Life's good @ the Bright side of the Barn

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Until next time, Stay safe and Happy Trails.

They Say

 .... They say ........

Crazy and Genius walk hand in hand down the same side of the road.....

Being SMART isn't all it's cracked up to be. 

In fact - many smart people have some disabling condition to overcome. Some are even 'mental', thus the reason some 'CRAZY' people are very intelligent at certain things.

A clip from www.psychologytoday.com

“You’re mad, bonkers, completely off your head,” said Charles Dodgson’s Alice in Alice in Wonderland. “But I’ll tell you a secret. All the best people are.” The notion that genius is only thinly separated from insanity goes back at least to ancient Greece. Aristotle linked the two when he said, “There is no great genius without a touch of madness.”* To give the ancient trope a modern context, consider the words of Robin Williams, whose suicidal death in 2014 was precipitated by Lewy Body Dementia: “You are only given a little spot of madness, and if you lose that, you are nothing.”

So you see, being smart isn't all it's cracked up to be. 

As a child - advancing in school because you catch on quick, often ends up with kids much older that resent your intelligence torturing you. 

The further along in school you get, some teachers often resent you as well. While other teachers take an interest in you, also making it difficult to "fit in with other students". 

You learn quickly in life - that YOUR NEVER GOING TO FIT IN.

So you have to learn to ACCEPT YOURSELF AND BE YOURSELF. 

As an adult -

You can either get lucky and find a dream job and excel, 

or end up in positions that you INTIMIDATE the boss, and end up no where.

You can either do something wonderful with life {this often includes a partner that has the same ambitions as yourself}

or you can end up getting told to DUMB DOWN YOUR RESUME, so you don't intimidate people just to get a 'job'.

Old age ~ 

Can be the dream retirement - with anything you could imagine.....

or a visit to social security 

Where the judge says YOUR SMART ENOUGH TO FIGURE IT OUT you don't need disability. 

You See ~

Being smart can work for or against you. 

Just because your smart,  people expect you to have the answers. 

 

** Just remember - the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence, they just used a different fertilizer. 

Blessed by God

Life's good @ the Bright side of the Barn

Thanks for stopping by

Until next time, Stay Safe and Happy Trails.