It amazes me how many people can't say something as simple as "I'm Sorry".
Very few folks can admit to their mistakes and come forward with an apology, almost right away, after the incident.
A few more folks will come around with actions that "make up" for the mistake, letting one know that they did not 'mean' what ever happened.
Some of them continue to "do things" to make up for whatever the mistake was.
Without ever talking about 'what happened' or 'what was wrong'.
Then there the folks that will just 'go forward' and pretend that it never happened.
Never acknowledging that they 'owe someone an apology'.
Never seeing their wrong as a mistake and never taking responsibility for it.
And let's not forget the folks that 'don't see that they did anything wrong'.
And continue to think they 'are in the right' with no intentions ever to apologize.
Admitting a 'wrong' seems to be the second most difficult thing for people to do.
The first being 'change'. Everyone seems to struggle with 'change', whether it something that just happens or something they need to 'change.
Admitting a 'wrong' appears to be just as hard.
People hurt other people's feelings and often don't even notice;
or take responsibility for their actions that caused the pain.
They can't even 'see' that they have hurt someone.
Of course, there are the folks that purpose to hurt others.
I have no words for them, because I cannot understand such evil hearts.
Revenge, jealousy, envy, anger and hatred are all the reasons I'm sure such actions take place. But I still don't understand.
Even when I divorced and left my children's father, I never bad mouthed him, or tried to turn my children to hating him. I tried to help my children understand the alcoholism that had overtaken him. I only withheld visitations when it was an endangerment to my children. I always hoped and prayed that someday he would get it right. A day that never came.
When I separated from my second husband, I was unable to get divorced because of his mental state of mind. He would 'change' personalities and could not cope with the 'courtroom experience' in a right frame of mind. The resolve was to remain 'friends' with no emotional attachment. Sadly, it ended up being my self-sacrifice and becoming his care giver which has led to much resentment, I try to cope with daily.
Throughout both experiences and with the 5 children growing up, I've come to know many folks. I've seen one hurt another and the other hurt the one. Family, friends and acquaintances come and go in the course of life.
Through it all, the one thing I've noticed is that everyone seldom apologizes to another. People would rather end a relationship and walk away rather than admit their faults and try to restore the relationship.
Seems hard to Continue the friendship, family connection or remain co-workers that can work together.
Quitting a job is easier than admitting a mistake. Long time friendships end instantly with one simple misunderstanding. Often neither side is willing to admit to any part of the 'problem' laying blame completely on the 'other side'.
When so often something as simple as to say "I'm Sorry" could change the course for everyone involved. Two little words can start the healing for a broken heart so quickly!
Yet it is the two words that are hardest to say.
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